Why communication is the key to a happy relationship

Communication is the key to a happy relationship. Here are some things I learned about communicating, which besides talking and listening, is all about doing…

1. Be courteous

Don’t take each other for granted. Say good morning and goodbye like you really mean it. The same goes for please and thank you. Treat each other the way you would a very special friend.

2. Maintain rituals

Whenever my husband comes home from work he gives me a quick kiss. It usually is just a quick peck but he never fails. That was especially important when I was frustrated and angry with him. Maintaining this ritual did a lot to help me get over it. We also have the ritual of having a cup of tea after dinner which gives us a chance to talk together.

3. Enjoy doing things separately and together

Appreciate and support each other’s interests. My husband gets a real kick out of cycling and as a result we have cycled to many beautiful places together. He has learned to share my special interests in theatre and music. He loves watching all types of sport, which I only share by watching tennis. Together we have learned that it is important to keep each other’s best interests in mind while also having many things we enjoy doing together. The tasks of handling money, raising children, and maintaining our household, all involve communication and fairness in taking responsibility for follow through.

4. Aim for win-win

Through the years we learned when to compromise and when to be supportive. There were many times when it was not easy. Relationships are made up of two individuals who choose to also share their life together. The individual needs and the togetherness need to be balanced so that both people can continue to grow together. What we learned was that it was important to think win-win. Both of us had to be able to support the solution or we would end up in a power struggle.

5. Let your love shine

Have an attitude of gratitude towards life. Appreciate and love each other and be sure to value friends and family. Give back to the community. Live where you both like to live. Take delight in the daily little things. Handle money and raise children so it doesn’t drive a wedge between you. Stand by each other when the going gets tough. Do not forget to enjoy each other and have fun.